Thursday, July 15, 2010

'Yes, she looks like you ...'

People often tell me my kids looks like me. Or they'll tell me how they look like Greg. Seems normal, right? Except both our kids are adopted. I've never struggled with not sharing my DNA with my kids. I'm certain it's no coincidence God gave us two kids who fit perfectly in our family.

I see both of their birth moms in their eyes. And I'm thankful for that sweet reminder of these women who gave us the most precious gifts possible.

Yet, I see myself in them, especially my daughter Cate. She is into doing things they way they were done the time before, doing today what we did yesterday, telling one story after another, and being independent and stubborn. Just like me. She may not have my DNA, but she's been watching me for three years, two months and nine days. She may have brown eyes and the genes to be much taller than her average-height momma, but her actions and words look a lot like me.

Greg and I were talking last night about how even though we didn't physically create them, we are creating them -- with our expectations, our beliefs, our actions and our love. And, really, that's so much more important than deciding whose nose and lips they have.
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[Want to read more about their adoptions? You can. Here. And here. And more here. Still more here. Oh, what the heck, you can read every blog post labeled "adoption."]

Sunday, July 11, 2010

family fun, indeed

We found a new place in western Kentucky. It's not actually new, but it is new to us. That's three-fourths of our family taking a mini golf break in the cute chairs under a beachy hut at Kentucky Shores Family Fun Center in Marshall County. And, yes, Ben was with us, cruising around in the stroller while we played mini golf and rode go-carts*.

This would have been Cate's second mini golf game. The first came about a week earlier in Hilton Head.

She scopes out the hole.

Sometimes it's more like she's playing hockey.

And sometimes she just needs to be a little closer to the hole.


* I don't have any photos of us on the go-carts because it was getting dark and the track was a little too far from the viewing area to get any decent dimly lit action shots. Courtney may have one on her camera. But, until then, you should know that Cate loved the go-carts. She rode twice -- once with Greg and once with me -- and loved every minute of both trips. In fact, when my go-cart stalled and died, she insisted we "go faster," which we eventually did after some assistance.

Saturday, July 10, 2010

pickin' blackberries

We picked blackberries yesterday.

It was a good time with friends.
I really liked the view of this barn.

As you can see, pickin' blackberries can be hard work.


We did end up with 4 3/4 pounds. But, hey, we like pickin' berries. This blackberry patch has no thorns. Holly introduced me to it last summer, and we liked it so much we went back this year. So I came home and made cobbler.
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Making cobbler is really easy, especially with this recipe ...

QUICK BLACKBERRY COBBLER
From Cooks.com

3-4 cups berries
1/2 cup milk
1 1/2 cups sugar
2 tsp. vanilla
2-3 Tbsp. cornstarch
2 cups Bisquick
1 cup milk
1 c. powdered sugar

Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Grease a 9"x13" pan. Mix first 5 ingredients, place in pan. Mix last 3 ingredients, pour over berries. Bake about 1 hour or until berry mixture is set. Serve with ice cream if you wish.

one tooth, two teeth

In June, Ben finally got two teeth after teething for five months. While feeding him yesterday, I finally was in good position to capture them and had my camera near. [Ignore the milk on his face!] He chews on everything and drools often, so I'm guessing other teeth are on their way ... eventually.

matching boys ... and toys

Ben and Davey are no strangers to matching outfits and the photo shoots that follow. In fact, they've even had a photo shoot in this matching outfit. We didn't plan another one, but when they wore matching outfits and had matching toys at our small group meeting on Wednesday, the camera had to come out.

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

holiday weekend

I like that celebrating America's birthday on Sunday means the official holiday for the holiday gets carried over to the next weekday. It's like a bonus.

We spent Sunday evening at my mother-in-law's house, where we ate delicious food, including blackberry cobbler, and then watched the guys shoot fireworks. She lives in Tennessee, which means we weren't even breaking any state laws about igniting explosive elements.

Cate wasn't so sure about it all, though. She decided she was better off inside, where she proclaim she "needed" to be to help Gran-Gran clean the kitchen. I was humored by my 3-year-old not wanting to admit she wasn't into the noise (I assume) of the fireworks. It's nice she used helping Gran-Gran as her excuse to stay behind the closed door.

I was happy Serenity and Maya (cousins I inherited when I married Greg!) were in town for the festivities.

Having the holiday bonus means we got to celebrate at Kentucky Lake on Monday ...

Despite swimming in the same lake, multiple pools and the ocean in recent weeks, Cate decided she was afraid of the water. I hope it was just the peer pressure of her cousin's fear and not a lasting issue. She just watched people swim and talked about fish. But, hey, she looks beautiful doing it!

Creating Masterpieces

And the subtitle should read: Who needs to finger paint when you have entire hands to use?

Cate had been wanting to finger paint since it was the craft of the week at story time several weeks ago. Then she forgot about it, so we never bought finger paint. Then, randomly, yesterday I told her we were going to the yellow store (aka "Walmart") before we went to the blue store (aka "Kroger") and she said, "We have to look for paint." Um, sure, I suppose. Mostly I was wondering what prompted the forgotten wish.

After lunch today, we broke out the finger paint, which, really, should be renamed hand paint. Regardless, I highly recommend Crayola's Washable Fingerpaints. They are in tubes and truly easy to wash off little hands and the kitchen table.

When she finished one of the six masterpieces she said, "See, Mom, it's beautiful. Want to take it so someone can buy it?"

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

pass the salt, please

The constant rhythm of the ocean calms me. Regardless of the emotions stored up in my heart. Other people are walking and biking and digging and building and reading and burning and sleeping. And I am just sitting and breathing and forgetting and remembering. I can block out those other people, thanks for the ocean's rhythm that comes and goes against the sandy shore with certainty.

My kids are little. But I'm glad they got to [and likely will again ...] experience one of my favorite places. It's different being a mom at the beach. When I was growing up, I'd read and think and walk and nap and rest and read some more while I sat for hours on the beach. Now I don't sit as long, am usually fetching something for someone, can't make it through a whole page because I have to make sure my son isn't eating sand, and answer 3-year-old questions that usually being with "What's that?"

But I wouldn't trade it. Because I want them to enjoy the beach and being to store up fond memories of going places as a family. My family vacationed often in Perdido Key, Florida, when I was growing up. I went on trips to Panama City Beach, Tampa and Naples with friends throughout the years. A hurricane pushed us from our familiar Gulf Coast and to Hilton Head Island in 2005, and I immediately felt at home among that sand and sea.

Now, my kids are learning about the beach.

I love watching Cate experience new things and then listening to her talk about them! She went to the beach for the first [and only other time] when she was 13 months old and not quite walking, so going last week was pretty much a new experience for my 3-year-old girl.

Despite its saltiness and vastness, Cate kept calling the ocean a "lake." She liked walking back and forth from the water to the dry sand, carrying her watering can or pail. [Well, in the case of the pictures below, she's filling a water gun!] She went out farther a few times, but she definitely was more comfortable at the pool in the backyard of the house we rented. In fact, the house was familiar for us adults and my 6-year-old niece because we stayed in the same place two years ago.

Ben, of course, wanted to eat the sand and drink the salt water. Although he did master sitting up independently for long periods of time while we were gone, he didn't spend that much time at the beach because he couldn't keep the sand off his hands or his hands out of his mouth. One morning, I was sitting on the shoreline with him, listening to him giggle as the waves broke on his feet. Then he'd reach down and grab a handful of the wet sand and bring it straight to his mouth. I thought if I let him taste it once, maybe he wouldn't want it near his mouth anymore. Yeah, that didn't work. He did float around the pool like a pro, like the water baby he is!

So, because I am a momma now, I did manage to read more of my books* while the kids played in the pool.

* While on vacation, I read "The Prince of Frogtown" by Rick Bragg, "The Spire" by Richard North Patterson, and "Caught" by Harlan Coben. I started "Whiplash" by Catherine Coulter on the way home.

'Say cheese'

Getting a family pictures is proving more difficult these days, even on vacation. But, hey, we tried ...

... in Charleston.

... while playing mini golf, a vacation staple.

... while on a dolphin-watching cruise.


[Apparently, I wore Ben often! It's easier than carrying around that infant carrier, which he's going to outgrow soon.]

scissors are not a toy, really ...

Ben got a real haircut, by a professional, who happens to be my brother's fiancee, while we were on vacation.

Much like the sand or anything else he touched, Ben wanted to chew on the scissors. Obviously, we didn't let that happen. She may have cut a little more had he not been so persistent, but the finished product was much improved. Just take a look at the before and after shots ...

deja vu ... in a very good way

There's nothing like empty the camera card after a vacation! We went with my family -- meaning parents, siblings and their families -- to Hilton Head Island last week. I really love it there, which I'm sure you'll notice, if you haven't already!

While going through my vacation photos, I was reminded of some similar shots when we went to Hilton Head two years ago. So, I thought I'd share ...

Starting with, the ever-popular duck float, which I bought for $1 when Cate was barely a year old ...

... and now. Although I just learned on this vacation that the duck float actually quacks. Yeah, I don't know how I missed that lovely feature the previous two summers!
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Then there is Cassie and me coordinating our shirt colors ... at the same restaurant. And we didn't plan it either time.

[Now]

[Then]
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As soon as I snapped this picture of Greg and Cate ...

... I remembered a similar [obviously exciting] moment in New Zealand. Both cruises -- although in very contrasting temperatures -- featured dolphins, at least in part.

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The girls liked to play in the sand then, when Cate was only 13 months but already loving on her older cousin!

The playin' and lovin' remain ...

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This momma is always a sucker for introducing her babies to the beach.

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As you can imagine, I took many, many more photos. Thanks to Facebook, it's easy to look back to our last trip. Here are photos from Hilton Head in June 2008. And here are some from Charleston that time. Here is where you can browse all of this most recent trip to the beautiful Hilton Head Island. And, again, here is Charleston this time 'round.

For more reminiscing -- this was our THIRD family trip to Hilton Head -- I did some comparisons between 2005 and 2008 here and here. For the record, Uncle Zac remains popular, especially with his sweet nieces ...

Monday, July 5, 2010

And the winner is ...

Rebekah! Although I will always call her Bekah.

She won a $50 gift certificate to spend however she wishes at CSN Stores, a diverse group of online stores.

Thanks for sharing your vacation memories, everyone. It was fun to read them, especially because I'm always thinking about where I'd like to go next.

[Bekah, you should soon have an e-mail with your prize from CSN Stores.]

Sunday, July 4, 2010

Happy birthday, America!

This is one of many pictures taken last week while we vacationed on Hilton Head Island. Other vacation photos are coming soon, I promise. Until then, have a fun time celebrating our country's 234th birthday.